Assuming a male attendee and female attendee are in dialogue post-event, subject to the rules of operation described earlier (see Briefing Document and Post-event Customer Service), it is recommended on the basis of extensive global research conducted by Kamran A. Beg Events that the two parties in question conform to the spirit and essence of the 3-Dialogue Rule, which has been respectfully developed by Kamran A. Beg Events as a post-event dialogue guidance framework for attendees. Crucially, the 3-Dialogue Rule is predicated on the definitive tenets of balance and moderation integral to the Islamic faith.

The 3-Dialogue Rule is discussed in extensive detail in Kamran A. Beg's book, The 3-Dialogue Rule: One Hundred Muslim Marriages in One Thousand Days, which was published in 2006 by Kamran A. Beg Events. For more information kindly click here.

Islamically, it is seminal to the integrity of any matrimonial dialogue that both parties know sooner rather than later whether they will be proceeding to marriage, a decision that cannot be undertaken until the parent(s) or guardian(s) of the male and female parties in question have become integrated into the dialogue process. Furthermore, a dialogue is only formally recognised as a dialogue when the parent(s) or guardian(s) of the male and female parties in question have become integrated into the dialogue process.

Before direct contact between the parent(s) or guardian(s) of the two parties is initiated the male and female attendees in question should endeavour to undertake no more than 3 dialogues, within the purview of a 2-week time scale, to establish whether there is enough common overlap and compatibility between them to warrant progressing their dialogue to the parent/guardian level.

The 3-Dialogue Rule, which is tempered with balance and moderation, would operate as follows and has been followed by a very significant proportion of the couples that have proceeded to marriage courtesy of Kamran A. Beg Events.

ONE
Post-event the male and female attendees in question, subject to the rules of operation facilitating post-event dialogue (see Briefing Document and Post-event Customer Service), should endeavour to engage initially in one ‘exploratory’ conversation - preferably via telephone - effectively the first post-event dialogue, and then reflect on how they view progress effected during that dialogue for the next few days before they decide whether they wish to proceed to a second dialogue. If one or both parties feel they do not wish to proceed further they should inform Kamran A. Beg Events who will inform the other or both parties accordingly or alternatively the two parties could inform each other directly though the former option is always more advisable.

TWO
Assuming the two parties wish to proceed to the second post-event dialogue they could arrange to meet in a public place though Kamran A. Beg Events would respectfully advise that the female party be accompanied by a chaperone. The two parties should then reflect on how they view progress effected during that meeting for the next few days before they decide whether they wish to proceed to a third dialogue. If one or both parties feel they do not wish to proceed further they should inform Kamran A. Beg Events who will inform the other or both parties accordingly or alternatively the two parties could inform each other directly though the former option is always more advisable.

THREE
Assuming the two parties wish to proceed to the third post-event dialogue they could either engage in a further telephone conversation or arrange to meet in a public place for a second time though Kamran A. Beg Events would respectfully advise that the female party be accompanied by a chaperone should the latter option be preferred. The two parties should then reflect on how they view progress effected during that dialogue – the third post-event dialogue - for the next few days before they decide whether they wish to progress their dialogue to the parent/guardian level. If one or both parties feel they do not wish to proceed further they should inform Kamran A. Beg Events who will inform the other or both parties accordingly or alternatively the two parties could inform each other directly though the former option is always more advisable.

Our research demonstrates that if the two parties have not agreed, at the very latest by the third dialogue, that there is enough mileage and compatibility between them for their parent(s)/guardian(s) to become involved in the dialogue process there is a 95% probability that the parent(s)/guardian(s) will not be factored in at all in terms of any ensuing dialogue between the male and female parties in question, effectively meaning that marriage is very highly likely not to occur.

In sum, the 3-Dialogue Rule entreaties both the male and female attendees party to post-event dialogue to decide by no later than the third post-event dialogue whether they wish to progress their dialogue to the parent/guardian level or whether they wish to bring honourable closure to the dialogue process itself.

The 3-Dialogue Rule ensures that the integrity of dialogue remains Islamically-tenable as it is allied to exploring the possibility of whether the other party could be a prospective counterpart. The parent(s)/guardian(s) of both attendees should in any event have been kept informed by the attendees in question that they (the attendees) had been in dialogue, thereby making the dialogues halal. The 3-Dialogue Rule affords dignity and protection to both the female and male attendees in dialogue without compromising their integrity, particularly that of the female party, in terms of the honourable social context driving the dialogue, which is to explore the question of potential marriage between the two parties in question.

Assuming the two parties have agreed, at the very latest by the third dialogue, that there is enough mileage and compatibility between them for their parent(s)/guardian(s) to become directly involved in the dialogue process, the next step is for the male's parent(s)/guardian(s) to initiate contact with the female's parent(s)/guardian(s), subject to the female attendee’s consent. Note, however, this could equally occur after the first post-event dialogue or second post-event dialogue though three post-event dialogues tend to be the norm based on the marriages arising from Kamran A. Beg Events. Importantly, the parent(s)/guardian(s) of both attendees should in any event have been kept informed by the attendees in question that they (the attendees) had been in dialogue, thereby making the dialogues halal.

It is only when both families have engaged in discussion, met and advisably mutually exchanged visits can a more informed decision be taken by both the male and female attendees in question and their respective families as to whether the degree of compatibility between the male and female attendees in question is sufficient to make marriage a tenable scenario for both parties, in which case, Islamically, the male's parent(s)/guardian(s) would then request the female's parent(s)/guardian(s) for her (the female attendee’s) hand in marriage.

Research carried out by Kamran A. Beg Events shows that the family values, mores and norms held by the two families in question, that is the male's family and the female's family, can exercise a very significant impact in terms of how comfortable the male and female attendees in question and their parent(s)/guardian(s) feel that marriage between the two attendees is indeed a tenable outcome. The 3-Dialogue Rule effectively allows this outcome, that is whether the male and female in question will be proceeding to marriage, to be determined sooner rather than later, notably without compromising the integrity – emotional, social, community or otherwise - of either the female or male attendee party to the dialogue and their respective families. In particular, it safeguards the female attendee and her family. It also safeguards the male attendee and female attendee in question against dating, which is Islamically-prohibited and non-permissible!