Any future offline contact initiated between members after initiating
online contact through Kamran A. Beg Professional
Muslim Online Matrimonials is at the discretion of those two members and is
the honourable responsibility of the two parties concerned.
However,
it is recommended on the basis of extensive global research conducted
by Kamran A. Beg Events that the two parties in question
conform to the spirit and essence of the 3-Dialogue
Rule, which
has been respectfully developed by Kamran A. Beg Events and provides
an offline dialogue guidance framework for subscribers of Kamran
A. Beg Professional Muslim Online Matrimonials as it does a post-event
dialogue guidance framework for attendees of Kamran
A. Beg Professional Muslim Singles Evening Events. Crucially, the 3-Dialogue
Rule is predicated on the definitive tenets of balance and moderation integral to the Islamic faith.
The 3-Dialogue Rule is discussed in extensive detail in Kamran
A. Beg's
book, The 3-Dialogue Rule: One Hundred
Muslim Marriages in One Thousand
Days, which was published in 2006 by Kamran A. Beg Events. For
more
information kindly click
here.
Islamically, it is seminal to the integrity of any matrimonial
dialogue that both parties know sooner rather than later whether
they will be proceeding to marriage, a decision that cannot
be undertaken until the parent(s) or guardian(s) of the male
and
female parties in question have become integrated into the
dialogue process. Furthermore, a dialogue is only formally
recognised
as a dialogue when the parent(s) or guardian(s) of the male
and female parties in question have become integrated into
the dialogue
process.
Before direct contact between the parent(s) or guardian(s)
of the two parties is initiated the male and female subscribers
in question should endeavour to undertake no more than 3
offline dialogues once offline contact has been initiated,
within the purview of a 2-week time scale, to establish whether
there is
enough common overlap and compatibility between them to warrant
progressing their dialogue to the parent/guardian level.
The 3-Dialogue
Rule, which is tempered with balance and moderation, would operate
as follows and has been followed by a very significant
proportion of the couples that have proceeded to marriage courtesy
of Kamran A. Beg Events.
ONE
The male and female subscribers in question should endeavour
to engage initially in one ‘exploratory’ telephone
conversation, effectively the first offline dialogue, and then
reflect on how they view progress effected during that dialogue
for the next few days before they decide whether they wish to
proceed to a second offline dialogue. If one or both parties
feel they do not wish to proceed further they should inform each
other accordingly.
TWO
Assuming the two parties wish to proceed
to the second offline dialogue they could arrange to meet in
a public place though
Kamran A. Beg Events would respectfully advise that the female
party be accompanied by a chaperone. The two parties should then
reflect on how they view progress effected during that meeting
for the next few days before they decide whether they wish to
proceed to a third offline dialogue. If one or both parties feel
they do not wish to proceed further they should inform each other
accordingly.
THREE Assuming the two parties wish to proceed to the
third offline dialogue they could either engage in a further
telephone conversation
or arrange to meet in a public place for a second time though
Kamran A. Beg Events would respectfully advise that the female
party be accompanied by a chaperone should the latter option
be preferred. The two parties should then reflect on how they
view progress effected during that dialogue – the third
offline dialogue - for the next few days before they decide whether
they wish to progress their dialogue to the parent/guardian level.
If one or both parties feel they do not wish to proceed further
they should inform each other accordingly.
Our research demonstrates that if the two parties have not agreed,
at the very latest by the third offline dialogue, that there
is enough mileage and compatibility between them for their parent(s)/guardian(s)
to become involved in the dialogue process there is a 95% probability
that the parent(s)/guardian(s) will not be factored in at all
in terms of any ensuing dialogue between the male and female
parties in question, effectively meaning that marriage is very
highly likely not to occur.
In sum, the 3-Dialogue Rule entreaties
both the male and female subscribers party to offline dialogue,
after having initiated
online contact through Kamran A. Beg Professional Muslim Online
Matrimonials, to decide by no later than the third offline dialogue
whether they wish to progress their dialogue to the parent/guardian
level or whether they wish to bring honourable closure to the
dialogue process itself.
The 3-Dialogue Rule ensures that the
integrity of dialogue remains Islamically-tenable as it is allied
to exploring the possibility
of whether the other party could be a prospective counterpart.
The parent(s)/guardian(s) of both subscribers should in any event
have been kept informed by the subscribers in question that they
(the subscribers) had been in dialogue, thereby making the dialogues
halal. The 3-Dialogue Rule affords dignity and protection to
both the female and male subscribers in dialogue without compromising
their integrity, particularly that of the female party, in terms
of the honourable social context driving the dialogue, which
is to explore the question of potential marriage between the
two parties in question.
Assuming the two parties have agreed, at the very latest by the
third offline dialogue, that there is enough mileage and compatibility
between them for their parent(s)/guardian(s) to become directly
involved in the dialogue process, the next step is for the male's
parent(s)/guardian(s) to initiate contact with the female's parent(s)/guardian(s),
subject to the female subscriber’s consent. Note, however,
this could equally occur after the first offline dialogue or
second offline dialogue though three offline dialogues tend to
be the norm based on the marriages arising from Kamran A. Beg
Events. Importantly, the parent(s)/guardian(s) of both subscribers
should in any event have been kept informed by the subscribers
in question that they (the subscribers) had been in dialogue,
thereby making the dialogues halal.
It is only when both families have engaged in discussion, met
and advisably mutually exchanged visits can a more informed decision
be taken by both the male and female subscribers in question
and their respective families as to whether the degree of compatibility
between the male and female subscribers in question is sufficient
to make marriage a tenable scenario for both parties, in which
case, Islamically, the male's parent(s)/guardian(s) would then
request the female's parent(s)/guardian(s) for her (the female
subscriber’s) hand in marriage.
Research carried out by
Kamran A. Beg Events shows that the family values, mores and
norms held by the two families in question,
that is the male's family and the female's family, can exercise
a very significant impact in terms of how comfortable the male
and female subscribers in question and their parent(s)/guardian(s)
feel that marriage between the two subscribers is indeed a tenable
outcome. The 3-Dialogue Rule effectively allows this outcome, that
is whether the male and female in question will be proceeding
to marriage, to be determined sooner rather than later, notably
without compromising the integrity – emotional, social,
community or otherwise - of either the female or male subscriber
party to the dialogue and their respective families. In
particular, it safeguards the female subscriber and her family. It also safeguards
the male subscriber and female subscriber in question against dating, which is Islamically-prohibited and non-permissible!
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